That doesn’t sound very nice, does it? But the Bible is very clear and specific when it speaks to us about who to befriend… and who to avoid! Here’s a short look at God’s list of people to reject as friends. As you read through these verses, make a note about the speech, character, or conduct of those who are not to be your friends and the negative effects they can have on you.
- He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed (Proverbs 13:20).
- Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go (Proverbs 22:24).
- I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person (1 Corinthians 5:11).
- Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?… Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? (2 Corinthians 6:14-15).
- Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Did anyone come to mind? Are there a few people who should not be in your life right now? Is there a friend or family member with whom you should establish some boundaries or emotional distance? Establishing boundaries does not mean that you cut people out without explanation or rudeness. Perhaps discussing with them why you can no longer be in their company or join in their activities will influence them, rather than the other way around.
And, then there are situations when truly you must cut ties with a particular person entirely. This may feel like a daunting task that is easier to just avoid. But believe me, it is truly better to have no friend but Jesus rather than have the wrong friends!
Question: Who’s in your crowd? Is Jesus a part of it?
Friendships are important to us all at any age. For more encouragement in seeking the right friendships read my book, A Woman’s Guide to Right Choices. To help your children also choose their friends wisely, see our new resources for youth, including A Girl After God’s Own Heart and A Boy After God’s Own Heart.